Sharing the work, no matter how you divy it up, is the only way to get along. But arguing about how the other's work should be done, as Gervase explained, is just as bad as not sharing. I use to have to plan my work around my ex's schedule so that all she saw was the results. If she saw me doing something incorrectly - 99% of time, there was a fight, even though the results were acceptable.

I know a couple who share the work this way.... gosh, I don't know if I should say this... here goes. She does the woman's work and he does the rest. Pretty odd concept, eh ? Neither of them take a breath from 0530 to 2300h every day. Both have jobs. The only thing they do together is the gardening. It's a couple of acres of veggies and fruit, so it's too big for one person with a full time job. Other than that, they do NOT work together. He only cooks when she is away. She only stokes the wood furnace when he is away. I have never known a happier couple. I think their secret is simple - either they are BOTH working at something or they are BOTH relaxing.... or they don't know what the other is really doing !