Roots and wings. Relationships need both freedom and closeness. Love doesn't smother it sets free. Everyone needs space, both physical and emotional. This does not mean you don't wannt to be close or love someone it means being with them is a choice, and all the more valued because it is a choice. There's a line in a song - if you give your love its freedome , it will stay a while, if it leaves you it was never yours to own. Don't kill love by preconcieved ideas of what it "should" be, and getting frustrated when things dont match expectations
I'd also echo what was said earlier in the thread you have to like/ accept yourself before you are ready to share your life with anyone else. And now having done the profound bit for the day - off to the lingerie shop to indulge in some glorious new undies.
Jude