Thank you, Challis, and everyone else. I will look into the Compassionate Friends and see if I can get the booklet for Bella's mom and grandparents.

Things have calmed down a little bit. They are having a celebration of Bella's life in a city park, tomorrow. They had a simple, very meaningful obituary in the paper with a picture of her. She was a beautiful little girl who loved her family, horse, and dog. Her mom, jennifer, still has not been able to face going home.

Her passing was really the result of a bunch of small factors which just added up the wrong way. She'd been going back and forth between the grandparents and their friends. No lifeguard on duty. She took off her flotation device to go down a slide. By the time they noticed she was missing it was just too late.

The hardest thing for me has been not seeing my own daughter this week, as she's been with Jennifer and at work; had to work extra hours to make up for taking Monday and Tuesday off to be with her. We've talked on the phone, but I am really longing to give her a big hug, which I will be able to do this weekend. It is amazing how strong the urge is to make sure your own kid is safe, even when they are all grown up and you've talked to them on the phone!

Thanks, again, for all of your help. I appreciate it more than I will ever be able to say.

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