The Mudcat Café TM
Thread #34909   Message #473582
Posted By: BobP
31-May-01 - 10:20 AM
Thread Name: BS: Parenting Questions
Subject: RE: BS: Parenting Questions
In my youth (60's) we struggled to emancipate society from the madness of chasing the almighty dollar.

We failed, bigtime!

With today's kids, access to bucks($) is objective #1.

Having raised two (boy in col / daughter in HS but acts fully grown), I can attest that they will do almost anything to acquire dough.

Knowing that, and having no particular moral dilemma with bribery, I know I can modify behavior to achieve what I want, so long as it fits their sense of reason and fair play.

you probably can't use it to get them to eat spinach, but: clean their rooms, do their homework, come home on time, dress in a manner inconsistent with your average hooker; that you can do, most of the time.

I believe in hard work. I believe in child-labor. I saw kids raised on farms who had serious chores from an early age, and what I saw was good. One thing I do not believe in is an allowance (domestic welfare).

I encouraged my kids to get jobs and I think both learned as much practical stuff from their jobs as they did in school.

I think it's a good thing to get them pointed early in the direction they'll be headed anyway, later in life.

May not work like love, but it sure gets their attention.