Kendall,what makes you say that? He doesn't appear depressed, he's eating ( oh boy, is he eating!) and sleeping well, participates in things when prompted,doesn't want to talk about his dad much but doesn't flinch if I do....I wouldn't want to haul him down the doc's unless I was sure that was an issue and I think he would see it as an unpardonable intrusion. Thanks for all your advice, everyone.I guess we will muddle through okay.....just wish the darned things came with instuctions!