Well....what do I know? I'm a Mom of a 17 and 14 year old ... and what I've figured out is that ... you've got to like them, they sense that right off . They know when you like them... They know when you are in judgement of them or their friends. Talk, talk, and more talk ..... Don't come down too heavy ... give them lots of "What if's" and give them the opportunity to work things out ... Keep your finger on the pulse and let them "think" that they have figured it out! I love my teens and all of their friends ... they are all great people. I can honestly say that I'm enjoying my parenting years more now than ever before! Good luck to you ... this is the best! Barb