UB Dan, that's an assholish thing to say. At a place where other people can take turns being in the limelight its reasonable to wish to have your turn in the limelight. Just because you have an instrument does not mean that it HAS to be played on every song. Sometimes the music is served better when there is less of a musical free-for-all. Listening is part of music. The bodhran player in this instance sounds like the selfish nit who cannot stand to be quiet.

In any group of people there you can have many options from one person singing or playing to everybody singing and playing. Why limit the group to one particular dynamic? It sounds idiotic to me.