you wanna know what kills most relationships? in a word, EXPECTATIONS. As the line goes in Utah Phillips' song, Faded Roses of December, ...dont ask me for a heart that I cant give you.. Is he really a bastard because he does not have what you want?

Time really is the only healer, and, dont look for a replacement right away, spend some time with yourself for at least a year. Then, try to find out why you were drawn to him, and that will help you to avoid making the same mistake again.