There must be a thing about fiddle players - maybe it takes a special kind of temperament to play fiddle? I played in a group where the fiddle player was always threatening to walk out. He once put his fiddle away in the middle of a gig and took much convincing before he would play the second half. Anyway he left in the end and though we missed the fiddle backing, we got along just fine without him. The consensus seems to be that you should get rid of your fiddle player - we managed and you will probably find that you will too. Good luck!!