Hear, hear, SINSULL!

Wolfgang, it's true that kat didn't include some details she thought she had, but she DID say she's under a lot of stress right now AND that she's taking medication, so it's understandable that she forgot she hadn't told more of the story than she had before your post.

I can see where your conjectures about some of the untold details would set her off. You said, "Even in the few lines you have written I see not only her but also your contributions to the mess"... and yet the "contributions" you cited were based on your conjecture and theorizing, not on all the facts. That would anger me, too. (Y'know what they say: a little knowledge is a dangerous thing.)

Even now we don't even know the entirety of the story from kat's point of view, much less Rue's, so we really can't say what caused the problem, or what the best solution would be.

Frankly, it scares me that you express "glad"-ness that she finds she and her husband have to move away from her daughter. It may be necessary, but nonetheless it is and will be horribly, wrenchingly painful; I'd never call it a "good remedy".

SharonA