Many of us who have spoken directly with kat are, perhaps, more fully aware of the degree of upheaval she is experiencing just now. I know that many of you might feel compelled to address the issues at hand. I assure you that this is not the time. In general what kat is needing is respite, support, and friendship. Specifically, she needs that portion of friendship that has been expressed by many above in their good wishes and willingness to listen without making judgements.