As an avid fingerpicker, I find myself trying to incorporate fingerpicking into EVERYTHING! This is not good. I know better. Yet, I plunge headlong, often into disaster.I also agree with your #1. I must play a complex piece very slowly (Especially true of fingerpicking) until I get it down solidly. But, I get frustrated and overstep my boundaries quite often.
My head is harder than the hard lessons learned.
khandu