I know somebody who plays the spoons very well indeed, and is welcome anywhere.  Mind you, she is a rare exception: I also know of a session that used to move venues regularly in order to escape a spoon player of the other kind; they didn't feel able to kill him, though they were frequently tempted to.  After a couple of weeks, he'd track them down; "Oh, here you are".

Survivers still talk about it now, years after, and look over their shoulders, just in case...