Mike--A guitarist in our group wants to add his baritone voice to our arrangements but is insecure and keeps asking the rest of us for "guidance." Finally I said, "The only guidance I can possibly give is for you to step up and do it." We've all started somewhere. If you flop in a bar, what's the damage done, on a cosmic scale?? If you don't debut, you'll never go on to improve. There are things about performing in public which ONLY performing in public can teach you. This is heretical, but as one married man to another, I'm not even that concerned about what your S.O. thinks (on this topic, that is). Mine has such different taste in music as well as different standards for what works and doesn't that I'm frankly not sure (with all due respect) that her opinion counts. After all, we married for love, not to co-produce a music group, if you see what I'm sayin'. CARPE DIEM, and whatever else you find lying about.
Chicken Charlie