Ali, I think when someone posts a message that sounds full of rage, maybe the rest of us would be better off not immediately reacting but asking what happened. Maybe we'd be better off trying to understand instead of simply reacting.

You have my sympathy for the loss of your friend. I've lost people, but never in such a terrible circumstance.

Jeri, whose PMs are always open to old friends, new ones, and people who just want to send me one on a whim.