Mudshark1 and GuestMLC, no you're not alone. I'm one of those guys keeping it together for the sake of my 7-year-old son. The wife and I stopped having sex shortly after our son's arrival. Things were wrong for a long time before that. My wife has for a long time shown nothing but contempt for me. I once summed up our problems as this: She likes nothing about me and the only thing I dislike about her is the fact that she doesn't like me. We both do well in all other aspects of our lives. We have friends (she has hers and I have mine), we are each well-liked at our jobs. We like each other's families. We just don't like each other. I once heard marriage called "the minimum of privacy and the maximum of loneliness." That pretty much sums it up. I'm glad I had some good relationships years ago. That way I know what can be. I don't drink to excess, don't do drugs, don't gamble, don't have affairs. My son is my foremost priority. Why did we marry? We each thought the other would "change." I can't bear to leave my son, and I can't stand to put him through the whole divorce/custody thing. I'm not looking for an answer. There is none. Just wanted to let you know there are others "out there."