Have an affair, have several affairs But make sure the person you have the affair with is well and truly tied to their SO and understands your reasons This way you can enjoy yourself without risk and without hurting your partner Its worked for me for 16 years, my husband doesn't know. Music is a great way to hide an affair as you tend to go out a lot and there are no questions asked. Just be careful to choose the right people and I believe it helps you to tolerate family problems and the mundane chores of family life. Most important of all it makes you a happier person to live with