Wow! So much sorrow on this thread. The hardest thing about being married,I find,is to avoid blaming my partner for the things that make me unhappy. He lives here, it must be his fault. If I lived alone, I would be forced to first look inside myself for the roots of my turmoil and despair, but because he stands so close to me, it is just so much easier to shine the spotlight on his inadequacies rather than my own. God bless, everyone! Balladeer