The Anneagram has different authors, some are better than others. Just go to a good book store and compare, then pick the one you like best. I loaned mine to someone(as I'm wont to do) and havn't gotten it back. Now, I dont remember who has it! So, you are 49, and, worried that no one will want you? I'd like to be 49 again! An old friend of mine used to sell used cars, and, he had a saying, "There is an ass for every seat." Dani, maybe I should be giving lessons?