Mudshark1,
The best advice I can give you is under NO circumstances get involved with ANY Mudcat wimmen except perhaps as platonic, on line friends that you never intend to meet. You don't want to cross the line and take it any further. If you do, and it doesn't work out, you will regret it, and the troubles you are currently experiencing will seem miniscule by comparison. Don't use this forum as a match making service.