M.Ted, sounds like you have some of your own issues here you're addressing also. My parents were divorced (as many on this list are aware of, but that's ancient history) and they were both very attentive parents.

My attitude is that kids are flexible and if their parents take good care of them they'll be okay. It's as simple as that. It took a couple of years before my kids looked back, on their own, and through hindsight saw that things were okay. I think you're borrowing trouble by predicting dire outcomes. Of course I went through periods of adjustment with my parents, as I will with my children, but that's also a part of growth, not just a result of divorce.

I'm sorry that your bitterness is possibly the result of someone not putting your youthful needs first. You're convinced that divorce causes these problems for children; others of us are equally certain that this isn't the case. It looks like an instance where we'll have to agree to disagree.