i grew up with a few alcoholics and have know many others.

i have never met an alcoholic who was not , in the most profound sense, manipulative and psychologically dishones.they are people who absolutely refuse to take any responsibility for thier own actions except when absolutely forced. they remain like this even if they quit drinking.

never trust an alcoholic, they are morally flawed people who will use anything, from psychobabble about"illness" to false heroics about doing what most of us do by normal decency--take responsibility. i have never know an alcoholic who didn't cheat at every area of life, once you got to know them and they all paly every bit of false sympathy for all it's worth.