I really wish all of you would just stop making generalizations. All of what you say is true of some; some of what you say is true of all. My mother was an alcoholic---she knew it, we knew it and since she chose to do nothing about it so did we. I continued buying her Lord Calvert up until the day before she died of lung cancer. Didn't hurt me any--might have helped her. Does that make me the bogieman Enabler?

It NEVER caused serious problems when her children were young.......she was a maudlin, sleepy drunk. We cried together a lot, and actually, it was good that we did. Got a lot of stuff worked out. I was never abused, never neglected.

I am very aware of the fact that since my mother was alcoholic, I have a higher risk factor towards same.

I know I drink too much. I know I am a "binge drinker". Just now, in MY life, I choose to do very little about it. I can "not drink"..........that is easy. In public, I can limit the intake---I will NOT make a fool out of myself in public, and I will NOT drive after more than 2 drinks in 2 hours.

I have other concerns that the crayture "seems" to make it easier to deal with........I know that is a fallacy, but it is something of a Fact in My Life........I can just forget about unsolvable problems and really SLEEP once in a while. You (whoever You is) might say that all problems are "solvable" but you have not walked in my shoes, so please don't tell me that.

Not all alcoholics are Manipulators. Not all alcoholics are Abusers. Not all alcoholics are Mean Drunks. Some years ago, a man was found dead behind the wheel of his car. Autopsy showed a blood alcohol level of .80. Legal limit is .10. Obviously, he was literally pickled......had to maintain a .3 to funciton. Nobody in this small town even knew he drank........he was a very nice man, very polite and ran a hell of a good restaurant.

Please, don't make generalizations.