Alice, take some advice from an old soul. Next time you meet a guy who looks interesting to you, before you get involved, check the following.
1. Watch how he treats his mother. (He will treat you the same in time.
2. Ditto waitresses.
3. And most important, wtch how he feels about cats. I dont mean simply not liking them, I mean if he hates cats, he is quite apt to be a controller. Control freaks hate cats because they cant dominate them. Many men dont like cats, but, watch out for the one who will harm them. He will control you too.