Hi, Kendall, great advice, but unfortunately, that guy had everyone around him that I met, including his parents, talking him up to me like he was great, and I fell for it. I was naive for my age and as a poet, he had a little fan club around him. He liked cats. I didn't know at the time that:

- It takes at least a year of observing someone's character and behavior to know them well enough to marry. (If it works out in less time, you're just lucky.)
- Some people are very good con artists.
- When you are grieving, you are not in a state to be making major life decisions.

We can all look back and say, "I wish I had known then what I know now". But then again, we learned what we know now from experience.

End of thread creep, back to the topic. I rarely read threads that have flame/troll discussions, so I've missed out on most of the anonymous Guest controversy. I do remember a time when Mudcat didn't seem to have any flaming going on, but Mudcat was young and naive then (1997-98). The only complaints I remember then were regarding threads about rock or pop music instead of folk or blues.

Alice