Amos, I will add another quality-- ENGAGEMENT. Some of us are engaged, not detached.

Now as to the poiint raised above-- defining what is preventing your enjoyment. Life don't work like that.

When you say someone else is responsible for what you can and cannot enjoy, you are giving all the power away. I don't want it, I don't agree that I have it, and I don't intend to take responsibility for power anyone ascribes to me that properly belongs to themselves!

Be responsbile for yourself and you will find that enjoyment follows effortlessly. It is a lot simpler than assiging it to others, and then trying to get them to exercise it the way you think they should. If everyone went around trying to get everyone else to act the way they want them to, why then I guess it would be someone like me, next, getting you to act like I want you to act.

In the alcoholic model this is called *stinkin' thinkin'* and *the blame game.* Every time you blame someone else you have given them the power and failed to exercise your own AND the responsibility that goes with it. The problem here is not the name, or namelessness, it's the stinkin' thinkin'.

Low maintenance living is much more rewarding. Live YOUR life, is what it boils down to, and note that others are doing the same.

~Susan