In regards music and math, I read a quote somewhere recently where a famous violinist -- I think it was Yehudi Menyuhin -- was asked about Einstein's violin playing, and he replied something like "Yes, I played with him a couple times and he wasn't bad. But like most mathematicians, he had a terrible sense of time."
Music ability and gender, I think performance is biased toward males in our culture, and emoting towards females. Ideally music is both, so do they cancel each other out?
Blessings,
Barbara