Anon asks: "How do you disown them?" *whew* When I first skimmed that sentence, I thought it said "how do you drown them?"

Anon, are you asking how to "disown" them legally, or emotionally? Either way, be strong in your resolve to keep on saying "no" to them. Hopefully, some people more knowledgable than I am on this subject will post links to some good resources for you to find support. Indeed, it is very sad, and I'm sorry to hear about your troubles.

Sharon