Yeah, I agree Sharon. The idea of getting a professionally trained, dispassionate observer to listen and help us realize what part of the problem is ours and what part of the problem is theirs is just plain sound. Once one can see the road clearly, it becomes much easier to navigate it. Then maybe some of the other methods have valid uses. I would agree with Susan that we all possess the tools we need, but we don't all understand the mechanics of using them. And I don't agree that online groups are any type of answer initially unless they are referring folks to some decent, specialized, one on one counseling with qualified, well trained professionals. Just my tuppence worth.

Anon, you are taking the appropriate steps in realizing that a change must happen. Now take the next step and get some solid, professional guidance. You will be very happy you did.

Mick