Don't know what the details are--maybe you have someone in your family who is super-needy, super-demanding with terrible "problems" and "needs" that are more important than anyone else's, and that you are expected to drop everything and run for the crisis of the day. Maybe you have a psychologically or physically domineering personality who respects no boundaries, or maybe you have ap parent or sibling who insinuates their way into every aspect of your life, on the excuse that you are too naive, weak, or dumb to manage things yourself--and maybe, no matter how awful everything seems, everyone acts like it is perfectly OK and you are the one with the problem--Worst of all, maybe, in spite of this, you love them all, and don't want to hurt anyone--

Maybe counseling will help you to do what you need to do, or to make peace with yourself for doing it --but there is really only one way to deal with it, and that is to take yourself out of the situation--move away as far as you need to move, so that it is impossible for the tentacles to pull you into every little problem--Maybe you need to be across town, or maybe you need to be across the country, but you have to be somewhere that they can't pull you back--because as long as you are in reach,there is no way to make them stop trying--you can try to learn to fight them off, they still push the buttons, and, in the weaker moments, you still give in--

It is the oldest solution to family problems--how do you think human beings ended up scattered all over the world?--they got tired of dealing with their dysfunctional families--