Catspaw, I know of several folks with kids like your Tristan. They present a challenge, to be sure, but it seems that surmounting the special challenges makes them and those around them much stronger folks than I can proffess to be. There is always hope in tommorow, no matter what the burdens of today, your Micheal at the tender age of 6 seems already to be paving the way to that tommorow for himself and his brother. Rejoice in that! Take refuge in whatever media heelps, but don't ever quit being you!