That's another fear I think we are both harboring, Amos. She has the love, right now anyway, of a kind strong man who is shortly to be her second husband. It hasn't been mentioned between us, but I think we're both afraid he'll decide that he can't do this for the rest of his life.

This fear is two sided for me. Will he leave her/will he stay out of pity??

She is about an hour away from me and I can be with her if she calls for me. I've asked her, but I think right now she wants him, but she wants to know I'm here.

The reason I bothered all of you was I was hoping someone could suggest an alternative. Is there a hospital or doctor somewhere not to far away who is REALLY an expert in this sort of problem that you could tell be about??

We live in central New Jersey. Has anyone ever heard of place near here that focuses on these types of problems?

To those of you who offer your feelings and compassion, thank you so much.

Love, Ann