"I am trying to decide if X is just terminally stupid and unaware of the consequences of their actions, and therefore has no idea of the extent to which this action has hurt Y and myself, or is a vicious, nasty, vengeful, spiteful person lashing out because life is not treating them well just now and they want to share the hurt they feel around" - Did you consider the option that others have posted, that X was not being vindictive, but misinterpreted and is just as hurt by this as yourself and Y?

So did you speak to X or Y yet?

GUEST