llanfair,

hear,hear

agree absolutely, i've been there myself- depressing isn't it?

but even though i'm not in that field any more, i wish kb's friend well in her career its a very fine one & most rewarding [spiritually if not economically] when you look back and remember how people were enabled to do & experience all sorts of things that 'the powers that be' would never have imagined them capable of doing.

as capri uni has already said, some of the most important things to remember are not to make assumptions about anybody's abilities and they should be consulted about activities and so on