I think that's the whole trouble with us human beans... we can usually not see our way out of an upset except by first giving into it. A pushed button is a pushed button... so once you have let one get pushed it's hard to remember all the good reasons why you were not going to give into that stuff ever again! *G*

Seems unfair sometimes, that wisdom is based on hindsight, yet we have to live looking forward! *G*

I think we might all have a better time here if only we could ever remember to start a post off with something like this:

"OK, here I am not writing from my best self again, I've gone and gotten upset, and in fact I am so far from my own best thinking that now I need to blow, excuse me for taking up the space to do it, but can you just let me blow so I can get my thinking straight again..." We seem to be able to do that in person, and to give each other a hand in that way with mutual permission and support, and with mutual progress.... and a lot of laughing seems to drain off the mutual button-pushing that can happen in that kid of exchange.... but in a thread, once you say something, it's fair game for all comments, and a cascading button-pushing exercise.

Oh well. I guess that's another symptom of Duffer Disease. I hear music is the only cure, too.

*G*

Look, I think the main thing, human beans tend to do the best they can in any circumstance, and some days, some of us (who are also doing the best we can) find that someone else's best is not good enough for us, while we protest loudly that our best ought to be good enough for THEM (or is at a minimum none of their damn business). But fortunately music cures that, too.

*G*

~Susan