Guest replied: "Continuing with your metaphor, the hostess has asked which china to use, how best to season the dish etc. Many have gone out of their way to look up recipes, find china catalogues etc. The hostess has then said that the meal will be ready very soon. Everyone is hungry and getting ready to enjoy the meal. The meal doesn't turn up, so the people wait a bit longer, then longer still. Everyone is getting very hungry. Eventually, someone tries to find the hostess, nowhere to be seen..."

The Hostess is feeding you for free...If her seasonings aren't right, who are you to critique them? If she says she'll be ready in an hour and it takes 4, who are you to critique her? If she serves it on paper plates, who are you to tell her where to get china?

If you don't like the way she runs her kitchen (note, kitchen...NOT restaurant), go home to your own and do better.