I did begin using soy milk & also tried a "natural" progesterone cream. The former did nothing to alleviate symptoms, the latter made me much worse.

What has worked: recognition of the natural ebbs and flows of my time constraints, energy, and emotions. Acceptance of my aging--this is HUGE when it comes to women's acceptance of the so-called "symptoms" of menopause! The patience of a saint. The passage of time (all the symptoms subside, return, subside, return). Regular exercise, and being very conscious of my diet and what foods trigger physical responses in my particular body. Regular time to myself, that I surrender for no one, built into my daily schedule.

I've also learned to set healthy boundaries between myself and my "loving family" (haha). Competent women especially have to battle the natural tendency of their family and friends taking advantage of them by making incessant demands that we do for them what they can and should be doing for themselves.

It also helps to have a very healthy "fuck this shit, life is too short" attitude, particularly towards "loves ones" demands. Especially the "loved ones" who don't even mean well! And every woman of menopausal age knows which loved ones THEY are, don't we ladies? ;-)