Mudjack and Justapicker are right. You have only to do it. Talking won't do it. Thinking won't do it. Just put on your National or Dunlop thumbpick, try light or medium first maybe. Try brass finger picks, I agree. The gauge can be from 18 to 25. I use different gauges on each finger, but don't ever think you won't have the feel. Play, play, play and play some more and you will begin to feel. It's a zen thing. A do thing. A "Be Here Now" thing.