Marion, it just seems like if someone offers a drink and you specifiy a soft drink they get the impression that you are different, not of the 'in crowd' as it were. I personally have no problem with this, let them think what tehy will. ANother thought is that they are thoughtless enough to assume everyone that attends their wingding will want to imbibe and they have made no provisions for those that don't and consequently are annouyed that they now have to scrqamble for an alternative. I just mostly avoid such gatherings.