Fair Youngmaid,
What we project onto our first really deep romantic love is, for the most part, an illusion of who that person is. We project what we imagine can be possible with that person. (But then, the real person would have to change, wouldn't he?)
Most people have felt what your are feeling, and as you get older, you will eventually realize that a more realistic life and love is possible with someone else. What you want is someone who does know that he loves you and isn't afraid to say he wants to be with you, right?? That man is out there, you just haven't met him yet. Learn to be a good, realistic judge of character, and hold out for the man you can respect and with whom you can communicate honestly.
Sing alot! Find the lyrics that our ancestors wrote, trying to warn us against these doomed types of relationships. Hang in there, Maid.

alice