Barbara, I know another woman with a similar experience. Her first pregnancy scared the living wits out of the guy, who was not ready for relationships, much less fatherhood. She did her best, got on with life, married someone else, and had a child with him. I don't know what happened with that marriage - if it was a "rebound thing" or what, but it, too ended. Seems guy number one had been kicking himself in the pants all the while she was married to guy nuber two, though, and at first opportunity let her know that he wanted at least to be a father to his daughter, and that hopefully, they could work things out. They did, have been married now longer than I've known her (at least 10 years) and have a third child. So her first and third child are her husbands, and the middle child is her ex-husbands. Try explaining THAT one at the company Christmas party.