If I was so fortunate to have a nice man, I would cater to him somewhat....

now..for cluttering..there are decluttering lists..I am a definite clutterer even after I gave everything away..one thing that works is to have little jars all lined up on a counter..I have them for money, old batteries, hair things, rubber bands, lip goo, that sort of thing..then you can sort..

If a person is a horizontal filer, they can not (I think) change to vertical. You have to file horizontally. Like those racks they put mail in in offices or something similar. Have fewer categories. Read Messies Anonymous. It is a whole other brain pattern and you can't change it.

mg