I can't answer the last question but I wanted to comment on what an interesting and civil thread this is. Jeb Stuart was a relation and I have a book about a not-famous ancestor of mine who was killed while serving in the Confederate Army. Lots of his letters to his wife are reprinted in the book. These days many people seem more interested in passing judgment on the Civil War than on understanding it but the comments here haven't been like that. For that, thanks to all.