There's only one answer BoabD -- ya gotta shed all expectations from friends, from family, from countrymen and decide in the fullest of your own integrity what you, yourself alone, deem the right action. If you go over there on the strength of anything less than that, you'll be miserable at best and at risk. If you stay home on any pretext while honestly believing that you should go you will likewise be miserable at some level. But it has to be truly your own call, no borrowed pictures from others.

So take thee to your mountaintop or spring, wherever you talk deep and truthfully to yourself, and compose your answer, and live with it joyfully which ever one it is.

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