I would definitely her what she would like..ideally how much she would welcome your presence, how much she could stand and where she would start going bonkers and feeling crowded. Maybe she would like or not mind if you stayed home in the mornings and made yourself scare in afternoons or vice versa...or maybe go away a whole day somewhere..volunteering, hiking, playing music, going to the library...depends on how big the house and grounds are of course. If you had a small house and enough space, a little office, retreat out back might be nice and you wouldn't have to listen to music lessons. mg