Bobert...Best thing you can do is keep communication lines open, even when feeling kind of stiff and/or hurt and/or resentful. A room of one's own is a life-savor, not just as a place to get away, but a place to either mess up or keep tidy, as you please. John and I worked/lived together 24/7 for 30 years, were sometimes at each other's throats and in each other's hair; we were as opposite as 2 people can be. But there is nothing that can't be worked out if you are both willing to talk about what you want and need, openly and honestly, with each other.

My husband was a homebody, and I think that was the hardest thing...never having enough time...a span of time...to get things done in my own way without interference, even friendly, even HELPFUL interference. Remember that you both need outside input to keep life interesting...new stories to bring home to each other.

I'm sure you will find a rhythm that works for both of you...and then it is a great way to live. Have fun.

Nancy