Matthew -- I completely understand, thought maybe from a different direction. I used to do theater and was just amazed at how easy it was to get into these backstage romances. Even ended up marrying my leading man (briefly) some years back. And I remember so well the first night I sang with a band in this free-flowing "space jam" in which I wasn't even trying to make words, just using my voice as another instrument. It was utterly delicious, and deeply satisfying. I went home and wrote to one of my good friends that it was like having had sex with eight really good guys at once, and not having to feel embarrassed the next morning. I still find myself easily "loving" the people I do music with. I think it's because so much of our lives is involved in the periphery of what's important to us, just doing what we have to do to get on, but the music and theater and art we create and/or care about is the articulation of the deepest and best in us, and in our view of the world. It's where our passion and bliss come out to play, and isn't that a pretty good recipe for what we call falling in love? This is actually right on with what Roger was saying earlier about taking off the "uniforms" and being right here in the nitty gritty. And Annap -- I"m with you. I'm one of those shy, outgoing people. A walking, talking (often with great animation) contradiction in terms. A therapist friend once told me I was "counter phobic." If something frightens me, I'll probably dive right in, just to prove the fear doesn't control me. But it occurs to me that maybe everyone's shy and some of us just force ourselves to walk across the room and shake hands with that stranger, or stand up in front of the crowd and say what needs sayin.' (BUT...the really weird thing about this, for me, is that I'm especially shy about singing with people. Once I get a song worked up, I can stand in front of HUNDREDS of people and not be too intimidated. But walking up to musicians I don't know and saying, "Do you know 'Hard Times' in D?" is just the worst thing for me. Maybe because I'm a singer and we're so instrument dependent? I don't get it, but it really has stopped me in my music-making.) KC