winterchild,

I haven't a clue about the biofeedback. I don't know enough about it.

I have learned some techniques, but don't really know how. When I look into peoples eyes, I don't see anything. I still misinterpret peoples feelings to me. I've given up trying to figure out women. I've dated and even been engaged once, I can't say that any of my relationships have been successful. Plus, I've completely misread many women's messages towards me. At this point, I am learning to accept that a longterm relationship may be impossible for me to have. It's not only the problems I have with understanding people, but my "secondary" AS symptoms make it difficult as well. One big thing is that its basically impossible for me to lay still. I have to move some part of my body, and that is not easy to do without waking a loveone in the same bed. All the time of my relationships, I have spent more time sleeping on couches and the floor than ever sharing a bed.

I don't know how I've learned to cope, but one thing that helped was to find a community of people who accept me (and others) as they are. I fit in ok when it came to Science Fiction groups, but didn't fit in with the SCA. I sort of fit in with Pagan groups, but there was a fair amount of shallow people who were there because Paganism was (and is) trendy. Where I found my home was at the Unitarian Church. It's not for everyone, but my congregation has accepted me so well that I'm in my second year on the Board of Trustees, I lead a couple Sunday services a year, and am considered one of the persons who knows "everything" that goes on around the church - an Aspie trait that has benefits!

Only one person in the church has ever questioned my AS when I've talked about it (and while she's mistaken, she's just trying to help, but she doesn't know me very well).

I've been sort of accepted in the folk music scene in Orlando, but I don't mix with it too much. Part of the limitation is that there continues to be a prejudice against musicians who primarily sing. I've tried to play guitar, dulcimer, etc. but find that I can't sing and play at the same time. It helps that I play the tin whistle, but the fact that I like singing trad. Celtic songs without accompaniment still seems to confuse many people.

I don't really interact with other Aspies on the Internet, haven't found a group that keeps me coming back. Mudcat is the only discussion group I go to regularly and it's because of the variety of the topics. I'm on a few email lists - all tied to the Unitarian Church.

Well, I've run on for awhile.

Maybe someday we could put together an Aspie Band.

Pax yall