I thought we all learned our lesson in this thread: How do I tell My SO I want a divorce?.

I know I did. Although I didn't post to that thread, I was convinced that GUEST,Milly was a troll, and the thread was a wind-up. So did many others, who did post to the thread.

It turned out that Milly was a friend of another Mudcatter, and was genuinely in need of help.

These days, if I think someone might be a troll, I simply don't respond. If I think they're sincere, and I respond sincerely, even if they are a troll, it only hurts me if I want it to.

If we want to keep the forum civil, we must ourselve behave in a manner that is civil.