I nominate paddyspig's comment as shorthand to refer in general to the sensible no harm/no foul approach: PLAY POLKAS!. Next time someone nitpicks me in any setting, I'm going to just exclaim, "Doh! Note to self: PLAY POLKAS!"

Speakig of polkas and tolerance, may I recommend for your consideration THE SCHMIELZO POLKA, located in the Mudcat songbook.

~Susan